Do you ever catch yourself in the middle of a negative pity party? Saying “I can’t do this”, “I’m bad at that”, “I’ll never be like so & so”, “I’m the worst”? It’s not that you can’t say something positive, it’s just you’re caught in a negative mindset spiral that you can’t get out of.
Well, if you don’t want to fess up to it then I will. I not only caught myself in a negative mindset this weekend but I was also called out by a fellow competitor at the competition I was taking part in. I kept telling everyone I was the weak link, that I wasn’t strong enough, wasn’t good enough, yadda yadda yadda. Truth is, I didn’t even realize I was doing it until this competitor looked at me and said: “say something positive!”
To which, I responded negatively until she kept pressing me to say something positive about myself. What did I finally come up with? “I like burpees!” She wasn’t fully impressed (neither was I) but said it was a start. I agree, it was a cop out and didn’t really get me out of my negative slump. So today I’m going to urge us all to say something positive as a way to build each other (and ourselves) up instead of tearing us all down.
If you are wondering, yes, I decided to compete AGAIN this year (and I may have just signed up for another competition in June). I hinted at the possibility of being interested in my post back in February. The competition brought back a spark in me that hadn’t been there for some time. It showed me that I’m capable of more and allowed me to be apart of a team again, one of my favorite things.
My friend Christine, my first ever CrossFit friend, told me after that competition in February that I owed her a competition. She’s not wrong! We met our first day of CrossFit Bootcamp back at Albany CrossFit almost 6 years ago and she has been begging me to do a competition with her ever since.
Probably close to 6 years ago when we did an in-house competition at Albany CrossFit. I didn’t even have pull-ups back then!
She is one of the strongest girls I know, hard working and naturally athletic. Week 2 of Bootcamp I remember we were doing Clean & jerks and I laughed because I had never done one before. I looked at her expecting her to also be giggling and then watched her put some serious weight on the bar, and make it look easy. I tried right after, and let me tell you it was anything but easy.
She didn’t let me say no to her this time and just signed us up for a competition instead. I may be bad at commitment but if I sign up for something I’ll go through with it because I hate letting people down. We roped in my friend from Aevitas to be our 3rd teammate, and the rest was history.
Less Negativity, More Positivity
Christine signed us up for this competition this weekend and never once cared about my abilities. She never called me weak, or not good enough or pathetic. Instead, she just kept saying how excited she was to hang out with me and to get to compete with me.
I mean, that right there is what I should’ve been focused on. And yet, I let the negative monster rear it’s ugly head. We named our team “Less Twerking, More jerking” but I think maybe next time I need it to be named “less negativity, more positivity” to remind myself that this is all fun and games and really, what’s the point of putting yourself down?
The competition was really fun (and brutal), my teammates were supportive (and freaking strong AF), the burpees were plenty (and definitely miss counted) and the margaritas were 100% earned.
I’m looking forward to the next competition but next time, will be going in with a more positive mindset, and some training to back it. Thanks to my teammates for putting up with me and for crushing the competition.
Shout out to my teammates for crushing the competition this weekend and putting up with me and my self-doubt!
Setting Realistic Goals & Expectations
When self-doubt sets in and the negative thoughts take over, it’s easy to think it’s the truth. The reality of it is that we need to be more open to ourselves, our goals and our expectations. There is normally a reason we feel so negative and we just have to figure out why and how to snap out of it.
I was lucky enough to be surrounded by people who believe in me, who see the work I put in and who want me to be better. That is probably the first step to success, surrounding yourself with good people. The next is setting goals and having realistic expectations for hitting those goals.
I sat down this morning and wrote down my training goals and have a vague plan of what I need to do next to reach my goals. More to come on that. The reality of it all is that my fitness, while incredibly important to me, is not my sole focus. I have a life, a career and so much more. Because of that, my realistic expectation is that as long as I set these goals I will achieve them…I just need to realize it will not happen overnight.
Say Something Positive
When you say something negative about yourself, you open the door for others to also think negatively about you. When I say these negative remarks I’m not looking for validation, instead, I’m voicing my own insecurities, fears, and thoughts. But, that’s not right to expect others to have to deal with that.
I want to take my competitor’s challenge and share it with you. I hope that you too can share some positivity today. Afterall, we all could use it.
So here goes nothing. I’m going to say 3 things positive about myself from this weekend! I hope you’ll do the same in the comments below (about yourself of course):
- I’m a great teammate. I LOVE being a part of a team, so much so that sometimes I forget that I need to be happy about my own performance because I’m so happy about my teammates’ performances. I loved being a part of Less Twerking, More jerking, yelling at Christine when she CRUSHED the weightlifting event and watching Mark destroy the Assault bike, dream team.
- I excel at the pre, during & post workout snacks, beverages & food. My food bag was bigger than my gym bag, which is usually the case. I love making food for people and making sure everyone is fed with GOOD food. My favorites? Protein balls & Pumpkin Muffins.
- I’m really good at burpees. Most people hate burpees but I freaking love them. I have an engine (thanks to years of swimming) and tend to be good at bodyweight movements, so bring on the burpees!
Ok, let’s spread some positivity today, shall we?